The Danger of Misplaced Guilt and Shame
As we navigate the complexities of life, it’s essential to develop a nuanced understanding of what is truly harmful and shameful, and what is not. Unfortunately, many people are plagued by false guilt, shame, and social stigma surrounding activities that are actually normal and beneficial. This can lead to unnecessary damage and harm, as individuals struggle to reconcile their own consciences with the expectations of others.
To begin, it’s crucial to recognize that some activities are indeed harmful and shameful. These actions can cause damage to ourselves and others, regardless of whether we personally dislike them or not. The key question to ask is: Is this activity going to damage me and/or others? If the answer is yes, then it’s likely that the activity is indeed harmful and shameful.
On the other hand, there are activities that are good or neutral, causing no harm to ourselves or others. A helpful spiritual principle to apply in these situations is to ask whether the activity violates the commands to love God and neighbor, or if it contradicts the fruits of the Spirit. If the answer is no, then it’s likely that the activity is either beneficial or neutral.
However, unnecessary damage is done to people when we take the guilt, shame, and proper revulsion that is correctly tied to harmful activities and attach it to things that are actually good or neutral. This can lead to a form of spiritualized legalism, where we stretch scripture or add to it to prooftext our personal scruples onto others. The threatened harm or shame becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, and people end up struggling to fight something that is actually good for them.
As we navigate these complex issues, it’s essential to ask ourselves: Am I trying to prove a preconception I received from people I trust, or am I trying to see what the Bible actually says? This is especially important when medical science says that something is beneficial for physical or emotional wellbeing. Are we allowing our personal biases and scruples to cloud our judgment, or are we seeking to understand the truth of the matter?
Summary Conclusion
In conclusion, it’s essential to develop a nuanced understanding of what is truly harmful and shameful, and what is not. By asking the right questions and seeking to understand the truth of the matter, we can avoid unnecessary damage and harm. Let us be careful not to take the guilt, shame, and proper revulsion that is tied to harmful activities and attach it to things that are actually good or neutral. Instead, let us seek to understand the Bible’s teachings and apply them in a way that is loving, compassionate, and wise. By doing so, we can create a more supportive and inclusive environment, where people are free to flourish and grow without unnecessary guilt, shame, and social stigma.